Jamestown, NC -- Two victims of drunk driving crashes, who never met, are now linked by what they've left behind.
In 2007, Casey Bokhoven was hit and killed by former WXII News anchor Tolly Carr.
In the same year, Emily Elizabeth May was killed when she was a passenger in her friend's car. The driver, her friend, was drunk.
Now, Carr and May's mother, Becky Kennedy, are working together to make a difference.
They've teamed up to make a film about a fictional crash and the resulting death and guilt, to keep others from experiencing their pain.
Carr and Kennedy sat down with News 2's Lauren Melvin on Friday to talk about how the tragedies have changed their lives.
"Sometimes I stop and think, I can't believe this is real," said Kennedy.
"Casey is gone and I caused that. And that's something that I can never forget," said Carr.
Carr said he remembers after the crash he had a hard time looking at his own baby pictures and pictures from when he was a kid.
"That kind of age of innocence. I betrayed that person," he said. "Now, having a wife that really loves me and really supports me and a daughter that always smiles when she sees me. It may not feel fair. And from the outside, it may not even look fair that I'm able to experience those joys in life."
Carr said that every holiday or every moment that he looks around and sees all the things in his life that he's happy about, he realizes that he took that from someone and someone else's family.
"It's like there's always a ceiling on your happiness," said Kennedy.
"Everything I do, I feel like I'm hoping I'm making her proud of me and to honor her memory," she said.
"Life is precious and it's fleeting. And once it's gone, it's gone. And there's no amount of money. There's no amount of I'm sorry. There's no amount of good deeds that can ever bring a person back," said Carr.
Both Carr and Kennedy said they're not convinced harsher punishment would be a deterrent for people not to drink and drive, because no one thinks it will happen to them. That's why their focus is prevention and showing their film to students during presentations about drunk driving across the community.
WEB EXTRA: To watch the full interview with Carr and Kennedy, click on the video clips.
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