Triad Family Tests Out Whispering Technique To Improve Communication

9:03 AM, May 13, 2013   |    comments
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Greensboro, NC - It sounds weird, but a Triad family says it works.  Whispering is a growing trend to help families better communicate. 

WFMY News 2's Tracey McCain had them try the technique out.  For one week, the Shaw's took home video of them using the whispering technique.  In tense moments, they whispered instead of raising their voices.

"There's never a dull moment in this house," said mom of three Erika Shaw. "There are arguments about stop chewing so loud and it gets to be a little much."

Just like any family, the Shaw children have disagreements.

"Sometimes when we're having playtime they get on my nerves, like oh  my God, why won't they do what I say," said the oldest of the siblings Camryn.

So what do parent do, when little voices get too loud.

"I will raise my voice in a hot second," said Erika.  "To try to control any type of atmosphere if it's getting a little out of control, I will yell."

But Erika and her husband Dwayne were open to trying new things, like whispering.  It might sound weird but, "This things works, you don't have to yell," said Dwayne.

"I'm really used to my mom yelling upstairs like, 'Hey, quit making all that noise,'" said one of the twin boys, Braylon.  But when mom whispered, "Well, I kind of whispered back," he said.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Jane Rosen-Grandon explains.  "Whispering has the effect of causing you to pay more attention and different attention.  "If you decide to lower your voice and whisper and look at the person directly in their eyes, there's  a good chance they're going to listen a little bit better as well.  And perhaps, their voice will lower in volume and the communication will be more effective."

Both Erika and Dwayne gave it their stamp of approval.

"I think everybody would benefit just by having that option," said Dwayne. 

The Shaw's continue to use the whispering technique and they love it.  Keep in mind this won't work for everyone.  Dr. Rosen-Grandon says the best results happen when the parents set rules about when the family will use it.   The family also has to be open to trying new things.

WFMY News 2